Female orgasm... See "The Goody Guide," page 90. ) If you really want to treat him, try Tina's personalized approach: "For my boyfriend's last birthday, I recorded one of my sexual fantasies on an audiocassette. I have always fantasized about being dominated. Nothing really kinky, but just a little bit more than I have ever revealed to my boyfriend. Well, we played it in the car on the way to a weekend spa, where I was taking him to celebrate his birthday. He tripped!" Which Way to the `Big O'? Despite gains in women's rights, we still haven't reached equality in terms of sexual climax. Female orgasm... She selected a group of women and had them wear a tamponlike device that detected blood flow to the vagina. She then had each woman listen to romantic tape recordings and erotic ones. Guess which recordings caused an increased blood flow to the vaginal area? That's right, the erotic ones. Nadine, a screenwriter, says, "I sent a sexy E-mail to my husband at his office. It said very explicitly what I wanted him to do to me and exactly what I was going to do to him," she explains. The result? Female orgasm... When I was 12 or 13 I was masturbating away in my bedroom when the door suddenly opened and in came my mother. I tried to pass it off as scratching an itch on my thigh but I can't believe she was fooled for a minute. It was never mentioned again but from then on she started to knock if she wanted to enter my room when I was in there alone. I got so worked up watching a male strip group perform at our club that I just had to start touching myself. I looked around to see if anyone could see me and what I was doing. The lighting was low and the audience was only interested in what was going on up on the stage so I risked it. Afterwards I was shocked at what I had done but as no one saw me, I just though, 'what the hell' - it was very nice. Female orgasm... Surrender yourself to sex. Don't be anxious or worried about taking too long to have an orgasm. Beforehand, talk to your partner and tell him that you don't like to be rushed. Most men are in a big hurry to get off, but it's up to you to help him reach his higher self, too. Show your sweetie what to do. Guide his hands to the outside of your panties, for example, and have him rub your vaginal area and caress your breasts for a period of time. Move slowly and whisper in his ear, giving him instructions in a sexy voice.

Female orgasm... When we got home, I started working on his feet--sucking each of his toes and massaging the bottom. Then we caressed each other all over for what seemed like hours, and we made love. The next time, he was the one who suggested it!" 6 Read erotic literature together. You could be hanging out at home or in a restaurant. Then, barn, surprise him by whipping out a book and reading erotic passages. One sensual suggestion: Erotique Noire: Black Erotica edited by Miriam DeCosta-Willis and others (Anchor Books, $15.95). Darlene, a wholistic practitioner, found that the poem "Cuntinent" by Ted Joans added passion to a long, tedious plane trip. Female orgasm... This allows deeper penetration and heightened sensations. THE SIDE-BY-SIDE This simple variation of the basic missionary position allows for slower and more intimate contact. You can face each other, or you can lie with your back to him, which lets you massage your clitoris as he slowly thrusts his penis in from behind. DOGGIE-STYLE For many women, rear ery provides the most direct access to the G-spot. Try this position in front of a mirror so that the two of you can see each other instead of the bedroom wall. Depending on your preference, his legs can be inside yours or outside them. Keeping your legs closer together creates more friction between the penis and the vagina. Female orgasm... Hutcherson's idea of a wonder drug? "Water-based lubricants. They are very much like natural vaginal secretions." Rub the lubricant on your partner's penis and inside your vaginal area to create wonderful friction during intercourse. So What Exactly IS the Female Orgasm? The male and female orgasms are very similar subjectively. When women and men are asked to described the sensations they feel during arousal and orgasm but excluding gender-specific anatomical terms, the descriptions are remarkably similar, and involve feelings of inevitability when the orgasm is imminent. Of course there are anatomical differences and women have the general advantage that most can have (or be educated to have) multiple orgasms.